The question of how to forgive is a common one I hear from my coaching clients. When you feel mistreated, wronged or hurt by someone, it’s difficult to forgive. When that “someone” is yourself, it can be even harder.

You’ve all been told to ‘forgive and forget,’ to move on, to let it pass…and you get it. But do you truly know how impactful this practice can be? Or that you can even make it a practice in itself? 

I want to share with you the  power of forgiveness.

One of the things with our emotions is that if we’re in relationships to other people and we have not forgiven them, we can feel emotionally blocked. It stops the free flow of genuine emotion and our ability to interact in a wholesome way with others’ emotions as well as our own.

Often we think to ourselves, “I don’t want to forgive that person because it gets them off the hook”.

The truth is this: that person is unaffected by you forgiving them. Instead, you are the one who receives healing when you forgive and let go.

If you are finding it hard to forgive, you may want to undergo a deep process to help you release the anger, sadness, pain, and blame that you’ve been holding inside of you.

Remember, you must truly let yourself forgive whatever has happened in the past. If you hold onto the blame or betrayal, forgiveness is nothing but a lip service. It’s just words.

You need to release all that blame and the hurt. Let it out, even say it out loud: ‘I forgive this.’

Forgiveness is only real if you let go of the whole consciousness. Then, the body can commence healing.

Do you have relationships in your life where you still may be holding on to that need to punish them for something they’ve done? Do you feel that with yourself?

If so, from this moment on try and let go. Offer real, true forgiveness. Bring them into your soul’s campfire and empty out all of the unspoken words you may be keeping inside. You are not excusing their actions; instead, you are lifting the burden from your own heart.

Learning to forgive is a skill, and, like any other, the more you practice, the more natural it becomes

Forgiveness is   an emotional and heartfelt process. 

it is the act of consciously accepting a personal offense and letting go of any negative feelings. This is done by using empathy and compassion to understand the person you are forgiving.

So it  is a process, not an immediate goal.

So let’s see the different stages of forgiveness